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Never look back, only forward. For most people life does not end with a divorce. Rather, it is the beginning of a new life upon which you (hopefully) have gained added knowledge. Perhaps you have learned from past errors, mistakes in judgments, fears or mistrusts, which may have existed in your marriage. This knowledge should lead [...] Never hesitate to seek professional counseling. Most people do not understand the vital role counseling can play in copying with a difficult marital situation. The seeking of counseling is not a sign of weakness. Quite the contrary, it is a sign of strength. Counseling does not necessarily mean marriage counseling, not necessarily divorce counseling, but counseling designed [...] Never allow the statements of your spouse or the advice of your family, friend and other acquaintances who have done through matrimonial litigation to undermine your confidence or your relationship with your attorney. Frequently, one spouse will advise his mate that his Lawyer is “terrific”, “knows all the judges”, “has friends in court”. And otherwise, [...] Never be afraid to tell me the truth, no matter how bad you think it might be. Are you engaging in an extramarital sexual relationship? Do you earn money off the books? These and similar important matters must be discussed openly, honestly and frankly. Precautionary measures must be taken to avoid adverse results during trial. Remember, [...] Never believe the threats of your spouse. They are designed to frighten you into accepting less of a financial settlement and otherwise make you fearful of going to Court. (As a matter of fact, the vast majority of divorce actions are settles, many on the day of trial, through conference with the Presiding Judge.) Some threats [...] Never use children as pawns or go-betweens Family Court IS full of children from so-called broken homes charged with juvenile offenses ranging from using drugs to burglary and truancy. A child in a broken home situation needs to have the security and the knowledge that both parents love them. For a greater explanation of the thoughts [...] Keep and write a diary of each days expenses (save and organize all receipts). You must know how much it costs you to live, whether a man or a woman, with children or not. Most marital actions are fought on a financial basis only. This information is vital. If you keep a diary with receipts stapled [...] Never discuss the facts of your case or the philosophy or theory of your case with your spouse, his or her relatives or family members, including close friends. You never know where information leaks exist. These can be fatal to the successful outcome of a divorce action. Very frequently, one spouse will engage the other [...] |
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